Relationship Coaching

Having healthy relationships can be a challenge in both your personal and professional life. 

However, there are a few significant distinctions:

• In your personal life, you usually get to choose the people with whom you have a relationship (aside from your family). Here are 2 strategies to help you choose people who are ‘good’ for you:

1. Discover and clarify the qualities you need and want in people, who are in your life.
2. Learn to identify people who have these qualities.

• Dating can be especially complex. And the above points are definitely relevant.

• In intimate relationships, passion, companionship, emotional health, and other qualities are also important.

• If you or your significant other have ADD or Executive Functioning challenges, relationships can be particularly difficult. Here are 3 actions to consider:

1. Commit to open communication – without blame – to discuss concerns.
2. Develop a plan to resolve concerns.
3. It can be helpful to partner with an ADD coach to clarify and work on goals.

• In your professional life, you have less choice about your relationships. Therefore, it’s vital that you implement these 3 C’s:

1. Convey qualities that are needed to succeed.
2. Cultivate productive relationships – even with people you don’t like.
3. Create a targeted plan to build relationships with strategic business contacts.

• In both your personal and professional relationships, these 7 skills are essential:

1. Active listening, to fully understand and ‘read’ the other person – and respond using part of their message and words
2. Using “I” messages vs “you” messages.
3. Conflict mitigation and resolution.
4. Appropriate assertiveness
5. Clear communication of healthy boundaries.
6. A balance of autonomy and cooperation.
7. Healthy (not boastful) self-confidence.

• 6 Tips for positive relationships:

1. Be honest with yourself about your feelings.
2. Tap into your internal gauge on your emotions.
3. Check your communication style.
4. Assess your level of commitment.
5. Clarify your values.
6. Be clear about your life goals.

Need more information on relationship coaching?  Please contact Marilyn at 847-322-8292 or Marilyn@FettnerCareerConsulting.com