Is Your College Student Stressed-out?

  • Is your college student experiencing stress that’s getting in the way of their studies? Are they even considering dropping out of school?
  • In contrast to college, high school is more structured, and students can feel like they’re in a ‘safe’ place. For many students, the less structured college environment is the first time they are in charge of managing their time and balancing academics, work, and even their social life – without their parents’ guidance.
  • Many students also experience pressure and feel overwhelmed and lost, when the time comes that they need to decide on a major and career focus.

If you’ve noticed any of the following in your college student, it may be time for them to talk to someone:

  • Trouble focusing on conversations or academics; poor sleep habits
  • Inability to decide on a major; lack of career direction – feeling stuck or lost
  • Don’t know what they ‘want to be when they grow up’
  • Worry about the unknown; fear of failure
  • Talking about how they want to drop out or that ‘college isn’t worth it’

Your student is not alone but they may need guidance to help them gain self-knowledge to understand themselves better and how their attributes match with careers. They may also benefit from enhancing their organizational and stress management skills.

These skills and self-knowledge can help your student with goal-setting for their future direction and improve their ability to manage their time and commitments. Taking these actions can help students feel less overwhelmed because they will have a direction and focus for their future.

To schedule a complimentary 10-minute introductory meeting or your full 45-minute consultation please email Marilyn at: Marilyn@fettnercareerconsulting.com

 

Stuck in a Job…With Paralyzing Stress

Our career choices can give us purpose, as well as pain.

Many people feel like they are ‘stuck’ in their job – like there’s no way out – and they’re unsure how to get out or where to go.

  • For some, it may be easier to change jobs or even careers and move on.
  • For others, it can feel overwhelming and may not seem like a realistic option for multiple reasons.
    • Maybe you have a family that depends on your income, and the sheer thought of leaving your job makes you worry that it would create a gap in your finances and cash flow.
    • Or maybe you’ve applied to other jobs, but you haven’t gotten any responses, and you’re feeling rejected.

Often there are viable options, but it could simply be that you don’t know where to begin.  Generally speaking, identifying a good-fit option, when changing careers or jobs depends upon matching a job/career with:

  • Your attributes – transferable experience and skills (that you enjoy using), personality style, interests, values, natural abilities, and other factors influencing this decision.
  • Your goals – your desired lifestyle and income.
  • Job market reality – it’s important that the employment segment you’re considering is actively hiring.

3 steps for getting unstuck and exploring your options:

  1. Gain a realistic and thorough understanding of your attributes.
  2. Clarify your goals.
  3. Understand the job market.

Keep in mind – small amounts of stress about work are common, such as having a big presentation coming up. But feeling like you’re trapped is something you may need to look at, for your own happiness and well-being, as well as, the happiness and well-being of the people who care about you.

If you’re experiencing any of the following, then it’s time to get professional coaching support:

  • You feel stuck or trapped
  • You get the Sunday blues
  • You spend a lot of time venting about your job
  • You don’t have the energy for outside activities or socializing with friends

Marilyn can help – with clarifying your attributes, identifying job/career options, revising your resume and LinkedIn so they are targeted to your job direction, creating a robust job search plan, and fine-tuning your interview skills.

To schedule a complimentary 10-minute introductory meeting or your full 45-minute consultation please email Marilyn at: Marilyn@fettnercareerconsulting.com

4 Things to Do While Looking for a Job – especially During the Holidays!

Looking for work is stressful and tiring, especially around the holidays. It can be easy to get into a rut and lose focus on your goal. But being strategic about your job hunt can give you the motivation to keep going. Here are 4 things every job seeker should do to maximize chances for success.

  1. Start networking like it’s your job

You need to get out and start networking like your job depends on it…because it does! Although virtual networking has its role, nothing replaces meeting someone ‘in person.’  Yes, it may feel awkward to go to an event where you don’t know people, but the more connections you make, the easier it will be to find your next dream job.

  • To help you prepare – start a collection of ‘conversation starters’ and practice them out loud to get comfortable. (Yes, out loud!) Also – prepare some responses to questions you may be asked.
  • Visualize yourself having a relaxed and enjoyable time at a networking event or holiday party. Repeat the positive visualization and stay focused on your goal.
  • By being prepared, you’ll be more comfortable and have a better chance of making some good connections – and maybe even enjoy yourself!
  1. Take breaks

While it’s important to keep yourself motivated and productive, it’s also important to carve out time for rest and relaxation. Looking for a job can be one of life’s most stressful events, so building in some time for self-care–like exercising and spending time with friends–can keep you sane during the process.  It can also keep you feeling positive, which is critical for networking – and interviewing!

  1. Get on LinkedIn. If you already have a profile, ensure it’s optimized

Employers are increasingly using social media to vet potential employees. Your LinkedIn profile is going to be at the top of the search results, when employers search your name online. Invest time to make sure your profile is complete, current, and accurately showcases your skills and experience.

  • Ask your connections to endorse you with personal and professional recommendations
  • Ensure you have a current professional photo as part of your profile
  • Use key phrases in your headline and check that your summary strategically highlights your employment experience
  1. Get Organized

Job searching is messy.  You need to make sure you’re keeping track of your network, everyone you’ve reached out to, and give yourself reminders to circle back with them in order to make progress. In addition to tracking and updating your network, you also need to organize other components of looking for a job:

  • Design a targeted job search and networking plan.
  • Create a list of targeted employers and build network contacts in those organizations.
  • Follow your plan and review often to identify what’s working and what needs to be adjusted.

If you want to explore how to land your dream job, contact Marilyn today!

TO SCHEDULE A COMPLIMENTARY 10-MINUTE INTRODUCTORY MEETING OR YOUR FULL 45-MINUTE CONSULTATION PLEASE EMAIL MARILYN AT: MARILYN@FETTNERCOUNSELING.COM

 

So…Did You Find A Job Yet?

Ahh, the Holidays. A time to relax, enjoy family and friends, and eat until your heart’s content.

Or is it?

The Holidays can be like the hunger games; you never know when your family is going to strike. And if you’re recently unemployed, you know the dreaded, ‘so, have you found a job yet?’ question will arise – multiple times.

Certain family members have a way of asking a perfectly normal question yet it gets under your skin and feels like a jab.

This year try to put yourself in the right headspace before opening the door to greet the family. Planning ahead can help us feel more confident in difficult situations and will prevent you from being caught off guard and reacting in a way you might later regret.

Here are 5 ways to help get your through the Holidays when you’re unemployed:

  1. Take a deep breath before you answer a question

It’s natural for someone to ask what the next step in your life is. If you see this person once a year, they may be genuinely curious and coming from a good place. Take a deep breath and assume they are asking because they care.

  1. Watch the alcohol consumption

Alcohol impacts our thought process significantly and can cause us to speak without thinking. Thinking clearly and responding appropriately are much easier when alcohol isn’t a factor.

  1. Ask them a question

There’s nothing like a classic turnaround when a relative asks a question that’s a little more invasive than you’re interested in. Ask about someone’s first semester at college, another’s new job, an upcoming vacation or compliment a bracelet.

  1. Be Honest

Sometimes the best response is the direct response. It’s simple: Just tell them you don’t want to talk about the job situation. Be kind about it but know that it’s OK to tell someone you’d prefer to discuss something else.

  1. Post-Holiday self-care

Now that you’ve made it through another Holiday with family, take care of yourself. Sometimes we tend to over think a conversation we had and allow it to get the best of us.

They are family, and deep down we really do love them. So, when you’re frustrated, try to remember all the things you are grateful for in your life – even nagging family members.

If you want to explore a career change, Marilyn will work collaboratively with you, at your own pace — to answer these questions and help you gain direction for a Best-Fit career.

TO SCHEDULE A COMPLIMENTARY 10-MINUTE INTRODUCTORY MEETING OR YOUR FULL 45-MINUTE CONSULTATION PLEASE EMAIL MARILYN AT: MARILYN@FETTNERCOUNSELING.COM

Need a Career Change? But Confused About Your Career Direction?

Now that you’ve identified your personality style, natural abilities, values, and passionate interests, using validated assessments, how do you choose a career?

My 3-Step Holistic & Collaborative Approach:

  • First -we’ll use the prioritized data from your assessments, along with your desired lifestyle and life goals, to create Your Best-Fit Snapshot or Career Profile.
  • Second – we’ll explore and assess careers that most closely match your Snapshot/Profile.
  • Third – if your Best-Fit careers require further education or training, we’ll explore schools that are a good fit for you. On the other hand, if no additional education or training is needed, we’ll design a job search plan and assess specific jobs and employers to identify a good fit – and figure out which jobs you should apply to.

3 Ways to Tell if a Job – and Employer are a Good Fit

  1. Competent Leaders. Based on data from LinkedIn, employers’ websites, Glass Door, Best Places to Work, and similar resources, along with your professional network, you can figure out whether you like and can respect a company’s leaders. Some questions you can ask are:
  • Do you like the leaders as people? For example, from what you know about them, do they seem to have integrity, care about the well-being of their employees, and are they genuine?
  • Secondly, do they have strong leadership skills? The best companies to work for have great leaders. You can distinguish strong leaders from the average manager by assessing qualities, such as self-confidence, industry knowledge, respect for others, and an optimistic attitude.
  1. Location. For many individuals, where the job is located can be of great importance.
  • Proximity to the arts, culture, recreational activities, mountains, the ocean, family, friends, and good schools can all be factors that are important to you.
  • Do you prefer to work remotely? Does the company offer remote working opportunities?
  • The length and nature of your commute can also influence how desirable a job is to you.
  1. Mission of the Company. Make sure you can embrace the goals and core values of a prospective employer.
  • The mission statement conveys the company’s direction.
  • It also outlines goals for what you and your team or department will need to focus on accomplishing. It’s important to determine if the company’s values are a fit with your own.

If you want to explore a career change, Marilyn will work collaboratively with you, at your own pace — to answer these questions and help you gain direction for a Best-Fit career.

TO SCHEDULE A COMPLIMENTARY 10-MINUTE INTRODUCTORY MEETING OR YOUR FULL 45-MINUTE CONSULTATION PLEASE EMAIL MARILYN AT: MARILYN@FETTNERCOUNSELING.COM